Sunday, 3 January 2016

What is your why?

 As we enter the year 2016 and most, like myself, will be making New Years resolutions. It's a time to reflect on the past year; what did we learn? What could we change? January is like a breathe of fresh air, we can really start a fresh in the first few pages of this new book of adventures!
 Sometimes I think as self absorbed humans it is easy to say what we are going to do, for example "I'm going to lose weight." or "I'm going to take up a new hobby." these things are great ideas but why are we doing them?
This platform (my blog) will be mainly used for beauty tips, however before we can discuss how best to look on the outside, we must first consider how to nourish the inside. As cliché as it sounds, we have to look after our soul. The core of doing so is positive thinking, and although this is easier said than done, with a few alterations of our mentality it becomes more natural.
 This starts by having a sense of self. Which takes me back to the title of this blog, what is your why? Why are you carrying out your life the way that you do? I'm still guilty of not knowing the answer to this, such as saying what I think other people want to hear or doing things which will please others but not myself. This can  be as simple as agreeing to go somewhere when I don't really want to or as drastic as not pursuing something I really want to do in the fear of being judged.
 In all areas of life whether it be dating/relationships, education or fitness, our 'why' has to be ourselves. We have to be making choices because it is what we want to do. How many of us haven't dated the super sweet guy because our friends think he's a dork? Or because people may laugh? And I've heard of so many people who pursue studies in an area which is pushed on them by family. When we talk about fitness, (something which I love once I get into it but once I start slacking, I slack bad!) you see people talk about joining a gym or cutting out carbs because they want a person of the opposite sex to find them more attractive. We're living in a society whereby we follow trends set out by the media and care more of what our peers think instead being our unique selves. And you know, the funny thing is, we're all doing the same thing, we're all believing that what we are doing is what is 'socially accepted' when most of us would applaud one another for their individuality and personal successes.

So from this post, I propose 5 things we should all do to become more positive:

1. Let go of the past - you can't win a race by walking back to the start line!
2. Do the things that make you happy - whether this be listen to music or go for a walk
3. Don't be afraid to say no - In the politest way possible, if you don't want to hang out with friends but instead want to pamper yourself and read a book, that is okay too, rearrange!
4. Surround yourself with positivity - be this your environment/work area or the people in your life
5. Ask yourself, why?

Thanks for reading, Hayley! x


  1. Such a good first and general post for your blog! My NY resolution was to get over the fear of starting a blog :) x

    1. Aww, thank you!! I've been wanting to start a blog for ages, yeah don't be scared just go for it! Im still getting my head around it all and how to get it out there aha! x

  2. Such eye opening, inspirational words, brilliantly said.

    Reading this has motivated me to be more confident and to not care so much as to what others think but to be truly happy.

    Thanks Hayley!

    Can't wait to read your next post X

  3. This was amazing, the kind of posts I love to read the most.

    Keep it up!

  4. I need to surround myself with positivity more this year, in comparison to last year. Lovely resolutions!